Bias

• Blindspot: Hidden Biases of Good People by Mahzarin Banaji and Anthony Greenwald

• Freedom from Othering: Undoing Myths That Imprison Us, Part 1, a Tara Brach podcast that explores personal and societal implications of negativity bias

Blame

• Blame, a Radiolab podcast that asks: "why do we need blame, when isn't blame enough, and what happens when we try to push past blame with forgiveness and mercy."

• Brene Brown on Blame, a RSA short film that explores “why we blame others and how it sabotages our relationships.”

Busyness

• The Disease of Being Busy an On Being blog post by Omid Safi a professor of Islamic Studies

Change

• The Personality Myth, an Invisibilia podcast that challenges the notion that personality is stable and immutable

• How old are our bodies, really? A short video from NPR's science video channel on whether any part of our physical body is stable over a lifetime

• When Things Fall Apart a book by Buddhist nun, Pema Chodron

Choice

• The Paradox of Choice, a Ted Talk by Barry Schwartz, author of the book by the same title.

• This is Water, a college graduation speech by writer David Foster Wallace, that encourages us to consider that we have a choice of what we think about.

Comparison

• “Status Anxiety” a video created by The School of Life

Conflict

• The Center for Nonviolent Communication, a site dedicated to the the "NVC" Conflict Resolution model

Connection

• My Stroke of Insight, a Ted Talk by brain scientist Jill Bolte Taylor

Courage

• Daring Greatly by Brene Brown

• What Do You Do With A Problem? by Kobi Yamada

Creativity

• Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert

Death

• When Breath Becomes Air by Paul Kalanithi

• The Bright Hour by Nina Riggs

• Being Mortal by Atul Gawande

• The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning by Margareta Magnusson

• Joyas Volardoras by Brian Doyle

Decision Making

• Getting Unstuck, a Hidden Brain podcast on designing your life through thoughtful decision making

• Designing Your Life by Bill Burnett and Dave Evans

• Are we in control of our own decisions? a Ted Talk by Dan Ariely, behavioral economist and author of Predictably Irrational

Devotion

• Greyfriars Bobby by Eleanor Atkinson

Doubt

• Are you sure? A Radiolab podcast on "walking the tightrope between doubt & certainty"

• Comfortable with Uncertainty by Pema Chodron

• The Paradox of Choice: Why More Is Less by Barry Schwartz

• Healing Self-Doubt, a Tara Brach talk that "looks at the tenacity of self-doubt and the power of mindfulness, investigation and compassion in releasing its grip."

• Practicing Doubt, Redrawing Faith, an On Being podcast with Adam Gopnik that explores the intersection of faith and doubt

Empathy

• “The Power of Empathy” a RSA Short Film based on Brene Brown’s research

Fear

• The Places That Scare You: A Guide To Fearlessness in Difficult Times by Pema Chodron

• Transforming Two Fears: FOF and FOMO a Tara Brach podcast

Generosity

• Successful Givers, Toxic Takers, and The Life We Spend at Work, an On Being podcast with Adam Grant, writer and professor of psychology.

• The Giving Tree by Shel Silversteen

Gratitude

• Anatomy of Gratitude, an On Being interview with David Steindl-Rast, founder of A Network For Grateful Living

Grief

• Everything Doesn't Happen For a Reason, Tim Lawrence's The Adversity Within Blog Series

• Micheal Rosen's Sad Book by Micheal Rosen

• When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times by Pema Chodron

Happiness

• The Art of Happiness by The Dalai Lama

• Part 1: Rewiring for Happiness and Freedom, a podcast by Tara Brach

• Part 2: Rewiring for Happiness and Freedom, a podcast by Tara Brach

• Shawn Achor’s widespread work on how to achieve happiness in the now, instead of pinning happiness to an event “just over the cognitive horizon.”

• The Happy Secret to Better Work, a Ted Talk by Shawn Achor

Intimacy

• Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel

Listening

• Listening Generously, an On Being Interview with Rachel Naomi Remen

Loneliness

• The Lonely American Man, a Hidden Brain podcast exploring the isolating effect of masculinity in American culture.

Loss

• Ambiguous Loss by Pauline Boss

• The Myth of Closure, an On Being interview with Pauline Boss, family therapist and author

• The Losses and Laughter we Grow Into, an On Being interview with Kevin Kling, performer and author

Love

• A Christmas Memory by Truman Capote

• Love Illuminated: Exploring Life's Most Mystifying Subject by Daniel Jones

• Love and Sex and Attachment, an On Being interview with anthropologist Helen Fisher

• "Modern Love" a series of reader-submitted essays to The New York Times, published weekly

• The Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams

Partnership

• Gift from the Sea by Anne Morrow Lindbergh

• The Course of Love-A Novel by Alain de Botton

• When Did Marriage Become So Hard? a Hidden Brain podcast

• Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person, the most read NY Times article in 2016, written by Alain de Botton

Regret

• Regrets, I have a few...a Hidden Brain podcast with psychology professor Amy Summerville exploring the impact of regret, both positive and negative in our lives

Reimagining life after loss

• Loss and Renewal, a Hidden Brain podcast with Maya Shankar, exploring life re-imagined in the face of loss

• Reframing Our Relationship To That We Don't Control, an On Being Interview with palliative care doctor, and trauma survivor, B.J. Miller

• The Price of Shame, Monica Lewinsky's Ted Talk on reinventing after public scandal

• Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy by Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant

Self Compassion

• The website, “Self Compassion” created and curated by Dr. Kristen Neff who is widely recognized as one of the worlds leading experts on the topic

• The Space between Self Esteem and Self Compassion, a Tedx Talk by Dr. Kristen Neff

Self Knowledge

• Your Personality Type: The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator assessment, developed by Katherine Briggs and Isabel Briggs Myers, is a test based off the ideas of psychiatrist and psychotherapist Carl Jung that is used to determine your "personality type," particularly in reference to how you view the world and make decisions. Are you extroverted or introverted (E or I)? Do you focus on the basic information (sensing-S) or do you add layers of meaning to what you learn (intuition-N)? When faced with a decision do you look first towards logic (thinking-T) or towards the people involved (feeling-F)? Do you like to make decisions (judging-J) or are you more comfortable staying open to new options (perceiving-P)? Knowing your personality type (expressed by a four letter code) can help you to better understand your way of interacting with the world and can also help you to widen your circle of compassion for the people in your life who act and think differently from you. Free adaptations of the test exist online, or to take the official test, register and determine your personality type here.

• Your Character Strengths: Scientific studies point to the idea that there are universal character strengths and that "each human being has a constellation of character traits (character strengths) that make him or her distinct or unique." Determine your "character constellation" through a free online test from Via Institute on Character, and use this knowledge to enhance and strengthen your innate character strengths.

• Your Dosha: Ayurveda is a holistic science of health from the Vedic tradition. Ayurveda is based on the three Doshas (Vatta, Pitta and Kapha) which are the energies that make up each person and perform different functions in your body. The following link is a starting point help you to determine your Dosha, which is Sanskrit for "constitution." Understanding your unique Dosha proportions can help you to pursue balance in ways that will meet your specific constitution's needs.

• Your Basic Needs: Born out of psychiatrist William Glasser's Reality Therapy (a cognitive-behavioral, problem-solving approach to treatment), Choice Theory is Glasser's idea that almost all of our behavior is chosen, and that our choices are driven by our desire to satisfy our genetically encoded five basic needs which include: survival, love and belonging, power, freedom and fun. Similar to the Ayurvedic concept of a Dosha, we all have a distinct "basic needs profile." Glasser posits that all humans have the same five basic needs (above and beyond their physiological needs), but that the strength of each need will vary among individuals in each of the five categories. While you generally can't bend the world around you to meet your needs, understanding your personal needs profile can help you to discover ways to meet your needs that are productive for you and your community. To determine your basic needs profile, read Chapter Two of Choice Theory: A New Psychology of Personal Freedom by William Glasser, M.D.

• Your Leadership Style: The "No-Doze Leadership Styles" class designed by NOLS instructor Molly Doran, helps individuals to evaluate their natural leadership style quadrant: Driver, Architect/Analyst, Relationship Master or Spontaneous Motivator. This exercise will help you to articulate your natural leadership strengths and weaknesses, and also will allow you to see which qualities you need to develop in order to become a well rounded leader, as each of the styles lends itself more favorably to certain situations. Follow along this class outline to determine your "No-Doze Leadership Style."

• Your Love Language: Dr. Gary Chapman suggests that each of us has a dominant "love language," or way we communicate love. He categorizes the love languages into five specific categories: words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. Knowing your dominant love language, and that of the people you care about, can help to improve your most important relationships. Determine your dominant love language here.

• Your Implicit Bias: Project Implicit seeks to highlight implicit biases that we each carry. The results of this important self-awareness tool are likely harder to metabolize than results of other tests on this resource list, but very important nonetheless. This tool was designed in part by Mahzarin Banaji and Anthony Greenwald, authors of Blindspot: Hidden Biases of Good People. Many of us have the conscious ambition to be unbiased and accepting, but our unconscious minds have not yet caught up to the ideal. Growing awareness of this reality is a step in the right direction.

• Your Thoughts: "The Work" is a method of thought inquiry developed by Byron Katie that helps practitioners to understand the pain that comes from attaching to the stories we tell ourselves instead of accepting the reality the world gives us. Byron Katie has created worksheets and other resources that can help guide you through the inquiry process.

Shame

• “Listening to Shame,” a Ted Talk by Brene Brown

Stillness

• The Art of Stillness, an On Being Interview with journalist and writer Pico Iyer

• The Sacred Pause, a podcast by Tara Brach

• From Human Doing to Human Being, a podcast by Tara Brach

• The Fast Track & The Call To Stillness, a podcast from “The Growing Edge” by Parker Palmer and Carrie Newcomer

• The Disease of Being Busy, an On Being blog post written by Omid Safi

Story Telling

• The Hero With A Thousand Faces by Joseph Campbell

• The Storytelling Animal by Jonathan Gottschall

• The Moth, true stories told live (and aired on the Podcast)

• The Deep Stories of Our Time, an On Being interview with Arlie Hochschild, a sociology professor

Vocation

• Let Your Life Speak by Parker Palmer

Vulnerability

• “The Power of Vulnerability” a Ted Talk by Brene Brown

• I Thought It Was Just Me (But It Isn't) by Brene Brown

• Post Secret, a community art project that employs vulnerability to help people everywhere know they are not alone

• The Heart and The Bottle by Oliver Jeffers

• The Courage to be Vulnerable, an On Being interview with vulnerability researcher, Brene Brown

Wisdom

• Becoming Wise by Krista Tippett