You can't selectively feel 

"Vulnerability is what love is all about. And vulnerability involves yielding control, revealing weakness, embracing imperfection, and opening ourselves up to the possibility of loss. Only when we open ourselves to the possibility of loss can we allow for the possibility of love." -Daniel Jones in Love Illuminated

"Take everything that's bright and beautiful in you and introduce it to the shadow side of yourself. Let your altruism meet your egotism, let your generosity meet your greed, let your joy meet your grief. Everyone has a shadow…But when you are able to say, 'I am all of the above, my shadow as well as my light,' the shadow's power is put in service of the good. Wholeness is the goal, but wholeness does not mean perfection, it means embracing brokenness as an integral part of your life." --Parker Palmer in his May 2015 Commencement Address to Naropa University graduates

"Being all light is as dangerous as being all dark, simply because denial of emotion is what feeds the dark." -Brene Brown in Rising Strong

“Who ever got the idea that we could have pleasure without pain? It’s promoted rather widely in this world, and we buy it. But pain and pleasure go together; they are inseparable.” –Pema Chodron in When Things Fall Apart

“We can’t selectively numb emotion. Numb the dark and you numb the light.” –Brene Brown in Daring Greatly

"If you want to grow and be free to explore life, you cannot spend your life avoiding the myriad of things that might hurt your heart or mind." -Michael A. Singer in The Untethered Soul

 “Emotions are like a faucet. If you turn off sadness, fear, anger, etc, you are also turning off joy, delight, excitement, etc. You can’t selectively turn off your emotions.” –From Allison Moir-Smith, author of Emotionally Engaged

"Our romantic lives are fated to be sad and incomplete, because we are creatures driven by two essential desires which point powerfully in entirely opposing directions. Yet what is worse is our utopian refusal to countenance the divergence, our naive hope that a cost-free synchronization might somehow be found: that the libertine might live for adventure while avoiding loneliness and chaos. Or that the married Romantic might unite sex with tenderness, and passion with routine." -Alain de Botton in The Course of Love: A Novel