Control is very limited

 “Be intent on action…not the fruits of action…Be impartial to failure and success.” -Krishna to Arjuna in the Bhagavad Gita

 “I can find only three kinds of business in the universe: mine, yours and God’s. (For me, the word God means ‘reality.’ Reality is God because it rules. Anything that’s out of my control, your control, and everybody else’s control—I call that God’s business.) Much of our stress comes from mentally living out of our own business.” –Byron Katie in  Loving What Is

 “Since the beginning of time, people have been trying to change the world so that they can be happy. This hasn’t ever worked, because it approaches the problem backward. What The Work gives us is a way to change the projector—mind—rather than the projected.” –Byron Katie in Loving What Is

“We can’t control how people perceive us.” –Brene Brown in I Thought it Was Just Me

“We can’t control how people are going to respond or react” –Brene Brown in I Thought it Was Just Me

"It is easy to feel that something bad will happen if we don't maintain our habitual vigilance by thinking, judging, planning. Yet this is the very habit that keeps us trapped in resisting life." -Tara Brach in Radical Acceptance

“Someone can be madly in love with you and still not be ready. They can love you in a way you have never been loved and still not join you on the bridge. And whatever their reasons you must leave. Because you never ever have to inspire anyone to meet you on the bridge. You never ever have to convince someone to do the work to be ready. There is more extraordinary love, more love that you have never seen, out here in this wide and wild universe. And there is the love that will be ready.” -Nayyirah Waheed

RESOURCES 

http://www.ted.com Behavioral economist Dan Ariely, the author of Predictably Irrational, uses classic visual illusions and his own counterintuitive (and sometimes shocking) research findings to show how we're not as rational as we think when we make decisions.